One day, I was experiencing some stress and it was dinner time and my mom called me to the kitchen. It was the worst feeling, that I was losing my mind. When I looked at my mom standing by the stove. I could see her, but it was 100% not like my normal line of […]

Individuals with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) fase a much higher risk of suicide, with rates of 70- 80% attempting suicide at least once in their life. Tragically 10% of these attempts are successful. To put this in perspective, those with Major Depressive Disorder have a suicide rate of 2-4%, while those with schizophrenia have a […]

Do you think you could possibly have BPD? Are you considering getting a diagnosis? There are a few things you might want to consider when deciding to take a psych eval. Could it be beneficial, yes but also no. Why wouldn't someone want a diagnosis? With all that considered, why would anyone get a psych […]

How can one find, or even draw the line between being supportive to your borderline and being able to hold them accountable. I know as one myself, I do not take criticism very well, I feel attacked when criticized. I imagine holding us accountable is quite challenging. Some gentle ideas to help you navigate this […]

Stigma: People with BPD are crazy, abusive and manipulative. Reality: individuals with BPD are really struggling with a serious mental health condition that affects their emotions, relationships and behavior. Their brains are actually smaller and have less activity than a typical brain. These anatomical differences are the evidence that are behavior is not because we […]

What is a secondary psychopath? Secondary psychopath, known also by secondary sociopath or pseudopsychopath is a person who exhibits some, but not all, of the personality traits of a primary psychopath. Normally a secondary psychopath will start to develop, in response to factors such as: What kind of symptoms are present in the secondary psychopath? […]

I don't want to go. You choose to let your emotions take control. You like doing terrible things sometimes. I want to hurt you, when I'm hurting. I always push people that love me, away. You love to use this as an excuse to be lazy! You're so dramatic. When you're mean, it's the real […]

You have just been given your diagnosis, it may feel very validating or maybe confusing. You could even completely disagree with your results. Could they be inaccurate? It can be possible to get a misdiagnosis with all of the variables like: overlapping symptoms or inaccurate self-reporting, this is not an exact science, so you can […]

The amount of fentanyl deaths, has been skyrocketing for years, and has pretty much affected all of our lives. Yet i've never seen any kind of a rush to find a solution to stopping this monster. In America, Someone dies every 11 minutes from fentanyl. But unlike the drugs of the past now the od's […]

My Mental health has caused problems my entire life. In my twenties my doctor prescribed me xanax, at first it helped a lot. It took all my pain away, It's not surprising I became addicted to that feeling. Things progressed over years and at the end, I'm embarrassed to admit I was taking 5-12, 2mg […]

I've had Mental health issues as long as I can remember. I started cutting in third grade. I never wanted to live, I remember praying at night in elementary school, for God to take me in my sleep. I have been in treatment for my mental health forever. I also advocate for mental health, take […]

Part 1 A FP, in relation to BPD Is a favorite person or more realistically a fixated person. Many borderlines have a FP, but not everyone with BPD has a FP. I have found a definite correlation in those with an FP, and those who don't. It seems borderlines who have a FP are normally […]

In my borderline experience, death of someone has been handled in two different extremes. In the past when a friend or family member has died my natural reaction is, "I can't deal with this", and then I don't. I know that looks cold, but I feel overwhelmed just thinking about it, and I don't like […]

One mental illness that gets an even worse stigma than Borderlines, they are Narcissist. NPD or Narcissistic Personality Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder can and often are comorbid, 40% of Borderlines also fit under the diagnostic criteria for NPD. Narcissism is characterized by traits such as: an inflated sense of self-importance, a need to receive […]

Today, a girl asked me if I thought there was a relation between Child Sexual Abuse and Hypersexuality. I asked over 200 people their opinion about the subject, and 86% said yes, they thought it did and the other 14% said they thought it did the opposite. Studies do show that sexual abuse that occurs […]

DBT therapy is short for Dialectical Behavior Therapy. It is currently the recommended and most effective treatment for people with BPD, but it's also the most promising treatment in mental health history. DBT is a psychotherapy designed by psychologist Marsha Linehan in the 1980's. DBT shared some of the same principles of CBT, Cognitive Behavior […]

Chronic Emptiness is a symptom of Borderline Personality Disorder that you can't observe, it's only something you can feel. A feeling that never goes away. It's an emptiness, a void, a longing, it's uncomfortable, and causes us to, in my opinion, to either depend on others, or depend on alcohol or substances. I used to […]

There are people right now, just living on hope. Just having the belief that it will be ok, can give you strength and the will to continue. I know at times, especially as a borderline, we feel hopeless. We feel defeated before we can even begin. Could it be that the battle has already been […]

Have you ever heard someone say, "Your body remembers"? Some people know exactly what that means, but the only way to fully understand, is to experience it. The part of your brain responsible for this is called your amygdala. Your amygdala is your primal brain and it has danger receptors that tell your body that […]

. Last year, I met a girl named Sharon. She had lost her son, like me and that's where our friendship began. The week after we met Sharon found out she had breast cancer. The cancer was already advanced, and she had to get a mastectomy right away. I remember after the surgery, when she […]

Surviving Borderline is nothing less than challenging. It weighs you down so much that it feels like it is in control of you. Naturally some people with BPD just feel defeated, even our brains have abandoned us, leaving us feeling powerless to get off this crazy rollercoaster. The truth is, we ARE the only ones […]

The G.I.V.E skill is a great tool in maintaining healthy relationships by using effective communication skills. Let's say, your good friend wants to take their life. Times like these, it's very important that you have good communication skills.. When people are very upset, sometimes it seems like nothing you can say is the right thing. […]

During times of overwhelming stress, our body will try to protect us by using a coping measure called dissociation. This is when overwhelming stress causes us to disconnect between or feelings, thoughts, consciousness and our memory. While dissociating an individual may feel detached from their surroundings, their thoughts or even their identity. Some common features […]

Borderlines feel their emotions with much more intensity. The ability to feel more also makes us love more too. Supporting someone with BPD can be a challenge so try to approach it with empathy and understanding. Try to find places to learn about BPD, learn the symptoms and about the feelings associated with BPD. Learn […]

The Ace test is a measure of traumatic experiences. The A.C.E test examines the relationship between adverse childhood experiences and adult health and social outcomes. Those with a score of 7 or more, were five times more likely than those with a score of 0, to report hallucinations. A score of just 4 or more […]

A symptom that many borderlines do not talk about as often is Auditory Hallucinations. About 54% of Borderlines hallucinate, this most often happens when the individual is under acute stress. People with BPD are most likely to hear things, but may also see things, smell things, or feel things on their skin that aren't there. […]

There are 4 subtypes of BPD, but it's important to note that the subtypes are not recognized in the DSM-5. Someone may fit under 1 subtype, while others may identify with 2 or more, or may be one type at one time, then another subtype at a different time. The 4 subtypes of BPD are: […]

Dissociation is the mental process where a person detaches or disconnects from their thoughts, feelings, memories or sense of identity. Dissociation can range from mild daydreaming to severe, when they may not recognize themself or being able to see things outside their perspective like from the ceiling and it may be foggy. Severe dissociation can […]

The answer is complex. Borderlines are some of the most empathetic people, we can feel your pain and will be the first ones to help. The idea of a borderline being mean, likely came from a splitting episode. When we split, often we are in a lot of fear. That fear (of abandonment) immediately puts […]

Psychosis is a mental health condition that is characterized by a disconnection fromreality. People experiencing psychosis will have distorted thoughts, impaired perceptionsand may exhibit behaviors that seem unusual. Psychosis can be a symptom of a variousmental health disorders, it can be extreme stress, substance abuse,trauma, certainmedications or something else. It is important for anyone experiencing […]

Borderline Personality Disorder symptoms are on a spectrum. None of us experience the samesymptoms, the same way. The DSM-V lists nine symptoms of BPD, and to be diagnosed, youneed to have five of the nine. Over the past few years, having so many border lines in the sameplace at the same time, I noticed at […]

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) often gets shrouded in misconceptions and stigma. We hear snippets about intense emotions, unstable relationships, and self-harm, leaving a confusing and often unnerving picture. But beneath the headlines lies a complex reality lived by millions worldwide. Imagine living in a world where emotions crash like thunder, relationships shift like sand dunes, […]